Why would a normal well-adjusted teen kill his family? Because according to his uncle, former State Senator Eric Griego, the 15-year-old murderer of the Griego family was just that “a normal well-adjusted teen” and not the monster everyone is allegedly portraying him to be. What? Normal well-adjusted teens do not kill their families, let alone anyone else for that matter. So, here are some of the Eye On Albuquerque’s thoughts regarding this tragedy.
However, we have to share some information we
received before we proceed to our thoughts.
We received some interesting information from one of our Eyes. The murderer of the Griego family was not a
normal well-adjusted teen, in fact he was just the opposite; he was a defiant
teen who had been headed down the wrong path for quite some time. According to one of our Eyes, the murderer of
the Griego family was thrown out of several public schools and not allowed to
return. This is reason why he was being
homeschooled by his mother, who by the way was his step-mother and not his
biological mother (another detail one of our Eyes brought to our attention).
It was also pointed out by a couple of our Eyes
there were multiple guns throughout the Griego home and not just in the
parent’s bedroom as stated by the Bernalillo County Sheriff’s Department and
the media. Our Eyes reported that Greg
Griego felt the murderer of him and his family was the eldest child and being
the eldest entitled him to be “the man of the house” when he was gone. So, Mr. Griego felt the murderer of him and his
family needed to be able to protect the family when he was away at work, church,
the store, etc… Mr. Griego felt this way
because some of the primarily felonious reintegration’s (possible convicted
felons) he had living on his property.
One of our Eyes broke down in tears while sharing
this information. Our Eye said they are
having a hard time dealing with the loss of their friend, Greg Griego, and his
family. Along, with this loss is the
guilt this Eye is living with and the misinformation that is being fed and/or
displayed by the Bernalillo County Sheriff’s Department and the media. Our Eye feels they should have pushed Greg
Griego harder to do something about the murderer of the Griego family. Our Eye told us they stopped going to the
Griego residence because they were in fear of the murderer of the Griego family
and the many guns available throughout the house that were not locked up.
Now on to the Eye On Albuquerque’s thoughts regarding
this horrific tragedy. One word,
NARCISSISM; narcissism is simply a personality trait distinguished by egotism,
vanity, conceit or other selfish desires and needs. Why does the Eye bring up narcissism? Because we feel today’s society is teaching
its youth to become more and more narcissistic.
We give our children everything, such as; game systems, cell phones,
computers, etc… We call our children a
prince or a princess and build up their egos, when the bottom line is our
children, just like us, in all probability will be just like us; ordinary
adults trying to survive day-to-day, week-to-week, paycheck-to-paycheck. Giving and providing for our children is the
‘norm’ of parenting. Building your
child’s expectations with unreasonable prospects is the downfall of most failed
parenting.
Here is where we are going with narcissism: Greg
Griego felt his eldest son, the murderer of him and his family could defend the
family when he was not home. This is an
extremely heavy burden and responsibility to place in the hands of a fifteen
year old teen who was displaying defiant behaviors. We believe Greg Griego had a heart of gold
but with this heart of gold, he was trying too hard to save others, while
ignoring or being blind to the needs within his own home.
Sara Griego (possibly the step-mother and not the
bio-mother, so we will go by step-mother throughout the rest of this article)
was the disciplinarian while Mr. Griego was away. Now, the murderer of the Griego family was
dating a twelve year old girl, who we have been told by our Eyes the murderer
of the Griego family’s parents were not happy with and did not approve of their
relationship. The murderer of the Griego
family has said he was mad at his mother.
It is our opinion Mrs. Griego and the girlfriend’s parents wanted them
to end their relationship. Could this
have upset the murderer of the Griego family to the point of planning his
parent’s death, along with the girlfriend’s parent’s death (the girlfriend’s
parents are still alive and no harm came to them)? An obstacle he felt he needed to get rid of
so they could still be together? The Eye
found this very thought in an article the Albuquerque Journal (Read it HERE) wrote called Kids
Who Kill their parents. Here is a piece
of this thought: as well as a desire to remove an obstacle-such as a parent who
won’t let the child date the person of his or her choice (Heide 2013).
The
murderer of the Griego family’s parents provided him with a game system and
video games. It has come to the public’s
attention that some of these video games were extremely violent. We do believe these violent video games can
make a person become desensitized, especially in young children and
teenagers.
Granted, the murderer of the Griego family was upset
and wanted to murder his parents and did just that. Why his siblings, where they in his way? Hum, well let’s see. They became witnesses to a horrific crime and
too young to comprehend that their brother just murdered their mother (Mr.
Griego was ambushed four hours later when he returned home, after everyone else
was already killed). These small
children probably started screaming and crying and the murderer of the Griego
family was unable to control them, so he controlled the situation, just like in
a game. The children became points per
kill and not his own flesh and blood. So
again, another red flag Mr. Griego ignored.
The murderer of the Griego family fits the perfect
narcissistic individual; everything was given to him and the people who knew
him best, his parents, ignored and enabled these behaviors and tried giving him
more monitorial items, then what he needed most; help. So, when the parents tried to take away the
one single item the murderer of the Griego family wanted most, his girlfriend,
he became enraged and started planning.
The murderer of the Griego family, along with his
twelve year old girlfriend, started planning their parents’ murders. Yes, this twelve year old girl new
everything, in fact, the murderer of the Griego family sent a picture of his
dead step-mother to her via his i-phone.
Evidentially, this twelve year old was interviewed by police and cleared
of any possible complicity in this tragedy.
This according to ABC news (Read it HERE) in an article you can find at the following:
Again, another narcissistic child, she knew what was
going to happen and did nothing to stop it.
Granted, some will say she is only twelve years old, too young to know
what to do. What? Sorry, she is old enough to know right from
wrong and could have brought it to someone’s attention. But again, her parents were coming between
what she wanted; the murderer of the Griego family. Remember, they discussed killing her parents
too.
Now not all narcissists will commit murder but
narcissism in combination with other problems or issues that go untreated,
undiagnosed or ignored, such as’ deviant behavior, mental issues, psychological
problems, drug use, etc… is a deadly combination.
The Eye also feels the media holds some culpability
in this tragedy. What you ask. In recent tragedies, such as, the Sandy Hook
Elementary School killings, the Colorado Movie Theater killings, etc… with the
media we are told “if it bleeds it leads.”
In other words, the media thrives off the blood and misfortunes of
others; they sensationalize and make the monster famous. The media does need to report the news but
their focus should be on the victims and not the monster. We feel the murderer of the Griego family
also had a desire to experience being the focus of all the media’s attention. If you have taken note you will see that
nowhere in this story does the murderer’s name appear; he does not deserve it.
Some view the murderer of the Griego family as a
child who has made a mistake, when in all probability the facts will reveal, he
was a cold-hearted calculated murderer who took five precious lives away from
our community. The Eye sees three very
different valid points: the first is the
family who has lost five members but still has this child who they do not want
to see spend the rest of his life in prison.
The second is justice, justice in certain situations is what the victim(s)
feel is just. The third and final point
is the community, as a whole, will not feel safe with a “person [child]” free
in our community who has murdered five family members. If this person did not respect his own
family, we feel assured that the community will hold a much lower ranking to
him, than his own family. Now, please take a moment to read the passages below and think about its “meaning” and do not take the passages literally.
“Someday God will force parents eat
their own children.”
‘And ye shall eat the flesh of your sons, and the flesh of
your daughters shall ye eat.’” -- Leviticus 26:29
And thou shalt eat the fruit of thine own body, the flesh of
thy sons and of thy daughters. -- Deuteronomy 28:53
“Children who refuse to obey their
parents must be executed.”
If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not
obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they
have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his
mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto
the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our
son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton,
and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that
he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear,
and fear. -- Deuteronomy 21:18-21
These scriptures are extreme,
however, the point is; people must be parents to their children. Parents must love, care, nurture, teach, train,
coach, counsel, mentor and at times discipline their children to provide them
with the correct path of life. A parent
must recognize bad or deviant behavior as just that and act accordingly.
Bad or deviant behavior is commonly
a cry for help! Give your children the
help they need. This cry for help may
indicate psychological problems, mental problems or even drug use. Talk to a doctor, a counselor or a
psychologist. Call the Juvenile
Probation Department for other ancillary services that are provided for free.
We here at the Eye want our
community to be safe. That means you,
your family, your neighbors, your co-workers and anyone else that is part of
your life… This story was not intended
to disrespect or belittle the Griego family but to use this tragedy in hopes to
reach out to other families that may be experiencing a similar situation. It has made us take a second look at how we
are raising our own children and grandchildren in our families here at the Eye,
so we can make a difference in our community.
Our sincere thoughts, love and prayers are with the family.
